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The Cab Ride

Bay Bridge Taxi by Thomas Hawk

I don’t know about you, but periodically I receive emails from my mom or other family members that have what I call an “internet story” in it. You know, some type of story that attempts to be funny or tear-jerking with an intent to impart deep meaning. They’re usually written in the first person, asking you to believe it’s a true story, written by some anonymous soul. 

Just this morning, my mom sent me another one - clearly forwarded about sixteen times, full of extra spaces and forward marks, dozens of recipients in each header. It’s title was The Cab Ride - no author cited. My first instinct was to hit the delete button. But since my mom sent it, the guilt would have consumed me. So I read it.. and then surprise surprise, I had the urge to share it here, with you (and have subsequently found it’s been circulating online for years now). About 5 seconds of research revealed the true author, Kent Nerburn, and his words about this actual event in his life:

What is noteworthy about that moment, beyond it’s poignancy, is that I did not create it; I merely experienced it and let it unfold.

THE CAB RIDE by Kent Nerburn

Adapted from “Make me an Instrument of Your Peace”

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. It was a cowboy’s life, a life for someone who wanted no boss.

What I didn’t realize was that it was also a ministry.

Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives. I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, and made me laugh and weep.

But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night. I was responding to a call from a small brick fourplex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some partyers, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town.

When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation.

Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.

So I walked to the door and knocked. “Just a minute”, answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her  90’s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a  pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of  a 1940’s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived  in it for years. All the furniture was covered with  sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was  a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told  her.. ‘I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated’.

‘Oh, you’re such a good boy’, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, ‘Could you drive through downtown?’

‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly..

‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice’.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice..  ’The doctor says I don’t have very long.’ I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood  where she and her husband had lived when they were  newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone  dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, ‘I’m tired. Let’s go now’.

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies  came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and  took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

‘How much do I owe you?’  she asked, reaching into her purse. 

‘Nothing,’ I said

‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.

‘There are other passengers,’ I  responded.

 Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

 ’You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said. ‘Thank  you.’

 I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life..

I didn’t  pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don’t think  that I have done anything more important in my life.

We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

(special thanks to Thomas Hawk who has so many great pictures of cabs under creative commons!)


Jen Consalvo
Jen is part of the team behind Thankfulfor, the online gratitude journal community. You can learn more about her here and check out her own personal gratitude journal.

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